Saved

“But eventually you learn that you just can’t save anyone no matter how hard you try. People have to want to change, they have to want to do better, and to be better. All you can do is love people and pray for them and be present when they need you. But you can’t save them; at the end of the day, we all have to save ourselves.” – Kovie Biakolo

                This quote by Kovie Biakolo is one that I have found to ring quite true to our lives. Often times we like to think that in a sense we can save people. For instance, there’s always been that cliché that the good girl goes for the bad boy because she secretly wants to be the one to tame him. The girl always learns that that’s not always possible unless it’s on the set of a Hollywood movie. Maybe we focus so hard on the rescue of other people because we can’t seem to figure out how we’re suppose to rescue ourselves. But ultimately, what it all boils down to, is we just can’t save people. We can help them, we can suggest methods of change and growth, but eventually it all comes down to whether or not the other person wants to be saved, and if they’ll but in the effort to get themselves there. If people are going through a severe downhill rough patch this is not to say you should abandon them – it has nothing to do with that. But essentially when people hit rock bottom you can try to pick them up but unless they’re willing to put their feet down and stand they’re not going anywhere. It’s a nice thought, to think we can be responsible for picking up other people, and we can certainly play a significant role, but we’re not in charge. It all comes down to do you, or don’t you want to be saved when you’re in a rut, and will you be willing not to rely on other people to do the saving.